Here we are! The 3rd trimester is here. She's almost in my arms! I have been awful about blogging this journey so I will try and cover all aspects of our baby, our loving surrogate and my amazingly supportive husband.
Lets start from the beginning. We had our first transfer a little over a year from our sweet baby girl’s due date, it was December 14th. What a beautiful thing seeing your embryos implanted. You put so much hope, time and money into a surrogacy and you just know it has to work and maybe just maybe both embryos will be healthy and will grow. There is no way to protect your self from that when it doesn't work. It was so unreal. We worked so hard did all of our research and had the perfect oven for our babes. We prayed relentlessly from the get go and prayed every single day after our first transfer for healthy babies and the only way I can cope is knowing that those babies weren’t healthy. God had answered our prayer. It was a hard answer to comprehend but he had answered. He knew he was saving our perfect little girl for us.
Once we had the all clear we did our next transfer in March. This transfer was totally different, everyone was very guarded. The excitement is replaced with stress and worry. But once you see that little tiny light on the ultrasound screen that hope returns. Those were two embryos that we created, that we love and that we hope and pray for. Again, we prayed for healthy and God answered and we are 10 weeks, 70 days away from meeting our answered prayer.
Our surrogate has been the most amazing person ever. I have heard of other Intended Parents who did not have a great relationship with their surrogate which makes me feel awful but so grateful for ours. It’s hard enough giving up complete control of YOUR BABY for 9 months! We are so lucky, she's loving and always thoughtful of me and of course takes the BEST care of our baby. I wish I could measurably thank her but I couldn’t finish that in a lifetime.
Time has been moving so slowly but then I think, OH MY she is going to be here in 10 weeks I have so much to do to get ready for her. I miss her. I miss her more than I have ever missed anything in my whole life. It's an exciting yet aching pain. I am working very hard for her though. I am inducing lactation so that I can breastfeed my baby! I am going to do post a blog on that to follow! I am missing not being able to carry her but am constantly reminded that we are so blessed we get to love her in just 10 weeks and I may never put her down!!
My sweet sweet husband has been nothing short of amazing. From my crazy dreams, thanks to inducing medication, to my rivers of tears. He was made for me in every way possible. I can’t wait to see him with his GIRL laying on his chest and seeing the way he loves her.
Surrogacy takes a village we wouldn't be here without our families and friends. We are so thankful for surrogacy and we can’t wait to see our babe.
If you have any questions about surrogacy or our journey, please do not hesitate to reach out. Educate yourself and others.
XO Julie, Stoney and Baby Girl Harrell